Whatever you think you ARE or think that you ARE NOT, you are absolutely right!

Henry Ford originally phrased it as “Whether you think you can or think you can’t…you’re right!” The true question is…”What is the reality I want to live into today?”

I had a dear friend/mentor confront me with this -in your face- perspective one day as I was complaining about my situation, going deeper and deeper into a ‘poor me’ downward spiral.

She said it matter of factly, “Marci, you know I love you but your thoughts and beliefs are creating your reality right now”… My jaw dropped; I was so offended and shocked, I think I even gasped at her condescendingly!…After all, she was not playing the role I wanted her to play in my life (or so I thought). I wanted her to join in my story and side with me in all the ways I was right…but she didn’t!!!!! After the sting of her words sunk in, and she assured me she was ‘on my side’; I was ready to listen to the wisdom she was teaching me; and what I’d like to share with you today.

Our minds are a powerful processing tool, think of it like the newest laptop/phone/tablet on the market today, with unlimited memory and AI skills that can anticipate and react to your next move, the minute you think or type anything!

So you say to yourself (your internal mental processor); “I will never lose weight” or “I will always be poor” or “No matter what I do, I will never get ahead in my career”. When we say these phrases, the computer of our mind processes everything that was said….

Never lose weight

Always be poor

No matter what I do, never get ahead in my career

…And the real kicker…it actually takes all of those comments and starts processing it like the obedient soldier that it is, and starts providing you with evidence all day long of how it finds you that reality in your daily environment, relationships, interactions, etc.

Think about it, when we are focused on eating right, doesn’t it seem like the donuts start showing up E-V-E-R-Y-W-H-E-R-E?! All of a sudden there’s a box of them in the breakroom, we notice them on every corner, we even start craving them!!! It’s the focus on the forbidden that draws it to us like a magnet! Let me say that again; it’s our constant obsessions with our thoughts/beliefs that creates what we see, think, do, act, hear, and be!!!

Let that sink in for a moment ... if you’re like me, you’re in disbelief saying “no, that can’t be”...It’s all the things I DON’T WANT!!! And you’re right…

Here’s the thing, the mind only knows what you are focusing on. It doesn’t judge it, it doesn’t analyze if it’s what you want or don’t want, it doesn’t factor in the morality of it or reason with it, it just processes it!

What we focus on, what we think about, what we say to ourselves, becomes what we believe! It shapes how we interact with others, our perspectives, our words draw from it, and ultimately it becomes our reality. I always say to my family, “what you think about, you bring about” (can you imagine my teenager rolling her eyes right now)! But it’s true!

So, knowing what we know now about the mind, my question for you is “What thoughts, beliefs, reality do you want to live into today?”

Take a moment to answer this.

If you’re an overachiever….here are some extra credit assignments for you!

Practice answering this question daily (preferably in the morning before you start your day).

After a week or so, review your answers. Find the theme of what shows up consistently in your journal. Use this to create your own “personal mantra” of what you want to live into each day!

Type it out multiple times and print it (or handwrite it on sticky notes); paste your mantra everywhere you regularly can see it (i.e. bathroom mirror, dashboard of your car, your monitor, etc.). Use it as a reminder to say it to yourself daily to reprogram your mind into your new reality!

Embrace a more intentional outlook on life and watch your reality transform around you! I can’t wait to see what your life becomes!

Reach out to me and share your experiences, I am walking right alongside you, cheering for you!

All the best,

Marci